The world may be unfair and unjust, but it is still so ironical that there is so much child abuse, so many abortions, so many unwanted children, and yet for every child available for adoption, there are so many wonderful, loving couples waiting. Infertility is still a stigma for many women. It is one of the major issues that Turner's women deal with. The idea still remains (though unspoken) that if you can't bear children or choose to not have children that you are somehow less of a person.

For their own personal reasons, a couple we know chose to not have children. Someone dared to suggest that something was "wrong" with them or that he "didn't know how to use his equipment." How unbelievably cruel this kind of attitude is. As a couple dealing with infertility, and as adoptive parents, we know how it is to go through these things.

When you really want a child; when you really love a child, you have to prove you are fit parents to adopt a child. If you give birth, you don't have to prove your fitness as a parent to anyone. It is just accepted that the mother and / or father are fit as parents. Whether or not a couple chooses to have children should be their own personal business. Whether or not they are childless by choice or by infertility should not make any difference. Pressure should never be placed upon them. They need that space and time to work these things out for themselves. They don't need any unsolicited advice or judgement by other people.

Children are our most precious gifts from God, and we need to treat them as such. We need to give them every advantage we can for a good start in life. We must try to follow the simple rule that we respect others no matter what. No one is any less valuable in God's eyes, no matter who, or what they look like, no matter what their abilities or disabilities. We must do all that we can to eliminate social prejudice against childless couples.